Sunday, February 28, 2010

Sometimes you win....

Nobody likes to lose, that's for sure. I just got finished watching a very exciting ice hockey game between the U.S. and Canada for Olympic Gold. The American played catch-up, ultimately tying in the last seconds of regulation play, forcing the game into sudden death overtime, where they lost.
Does that make them losers?
Maybe, to some. That's a word we hear a lot these days. This one, or that, is a loser. It's ubiquitous, and vague, but no one wants it applied to them. No one becomes more attractive, or important, or socially desirable, or wealthy. No one has more friends, or plays the hero, or gets the girl by being a loser.
But then we come to the 12 Step Programs. And all that talk about surrender. Surrender? Now just a minute, here! We don't surrender!
Oh yes we do. We "lose to win," we "keep it by giving it away." We "let go and let God" and "turn it over."
Are we "Losers".
No. We are Winners. And what were Winners?
Easy, they are Losers who kept on trying.
Losers who didn't give up.
So, let's not look down our noses at the losers.
Let's thank them and encourage them to keep on trying.
That way, we all win.


  1. The way I see it.... losing is an event, not a person.

    What we commonly refer to as a loser is a person who has a succession of losing events in their life. Brought largely on by choices and behaviours.

    I have yet to meet the person who could not change some choice or behaviour. Even if it is just a little. And thereby change their pattern of losing events.

    In this respect, there are not losers. Just people who have had a lot of loss events. Perhaps concurrently. But yesterday is gone. Tomorrw is unfolding. And today, we have a full new set of choice in front of us. Good choices lead to wins. Bad choices lead to loss.

    We can change the pattern of losing today with better choices. Even small ones. There are not loser. Just loss events.



  2. I think that each person has winning traits. I don't think that I've ever liked thinking of anyone as a loser. I might have been harder on myself than others. But thankfully I am being gentle with myself today.


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